The pursuit of being happy as a woman in any size

Grimes wrote on her blog about being a female musician and a human being, Here are a few of the quotes,

"I dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction.

I dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized.

I'm tired of being considered vapid for liking pop music or caring about fashion as if these things inherently lack substance or as if the things i enjoy somehow make me a lesser person.

I'm tired of being congratulated for being thin because i can more easily fit into sample sizes from the runway.

I’m sad that my desire to be treated as an equal and as a human being is interpreted as hatred of men, rather than a request to be included and respected (I have four brothers and many male best friends and a dad and i promise i do not hate men at all, nor do i believe that all men are sexist or that all men behave in the ways described above)."

Her voice speaks for many women I am sure.
We are all just human after all. Why do we have the pressure to live and do things base on society's standard? What is society's standard, or is it men's standard (Because women also use men's standard to judge many things)? But then, is part of the deal being a human is being criticised? That in our human nature, we just love to criticise? It is being used to vent, to express an opinion, to be used as a tool or weapon when we feel weak in the modern society?

As much as I want to have more human right as a woman, I think the most important thing is having women united before we fight towards having human equality.

We all know it's really hard.

1st of foremost, mothers always criticise daughters of their appearance as they want their daughters to be a "better" version of themselves. Most of us growing up having low self esteem as we are never celebrated as a human being, but being celebrated based on mostly, how cute we look as a child, THEN our smart we are to have our achievements, as if all these mothers want to reflect themselves on their own child. It's never ending bashing carry on from 1 generation to another.
Of course as being the child, we then bring this attitude to school bashing other female to release our rage, etc. You don't see boys doing that unless they have a troubled childhood or being very closed to their mother, otherwise they have to have a bad father who use them as punching bags to have developed a bashing character.

2nd, most women and some men in different levels have to use their image/ appearance to strike an impression for their own survival, as human is attracted to "beautiful" things ( going back to what they have been taught by their parents since young).

3rd, It is also much easier to attack others by their appearance to defend oneself nowadays then being physically violence.

Afterall, most of us are not on the same intelligence or education level, which again makes the goal of human equality very hard to achieve.

Coming back to the titled subject, how can we be happy with ourselves at any size? Because even with the issue of body size, the world out there is still just developing this "new" idea of body positivity, that woman or human comes in all shapes and sizes. But I mean, if you ask any kids, that if all the people and animals look the same in size and shapes, they will for sure say no as a direct answer. So this is all matters in our head whether we want to live under the common society's rules. As long as you know what is the truth out there and that you live your life by your own rules and standard and try to contribute to the society. Who can judge you for who you are?

Even for Grimes, apart from the physical harassment, it is possible to ignore the rest.



The day will come for most of us although we are not there yet, for you know, this evil act mostly come from jealousy and it is in our human nature, it is how we grew up living on earth filled of similar characters, it is implemented in our system by society and our parents, and it is a defense mechanism.

So one can only hope that we would fight for the women and human equality in a timely manner. Until then, we will be fighting towards our own happiness.

Read the whole article from Grimes here.
http://actuallygrimes.tumblr.com/post/48744769552/i-dont-want-to-have-to-compromise-my-morals-in-order